have (someone) coming and going
To put someone in an inescapable position or situation; to leave someone with no viable options or solutions. If I want to stay in the country, I need a job, but if I want a job, I need to be living here—these immigration issues have me coming and going!
coming and going, have someone
Catch someone both ways, give someone no way out. For example, If Jane accepted the transfer she would have to move, but if she turned it down she would have to travel more-they had her coming and going . Also see coming or going.