EMPATHY
in someone else's shoes and in someone else's place
seeing or experiencing something from someone else's point of view.You might feel different if you were in her shoes.Pretend you're in Tom's place, and then try to figure out why he acts the way he does.
put oneself in someone else's place and put oneself in someone else's shoes
to allow oneself to see or experience something from someone else's point of view.Put yourself in someone else's place, and see how it feels.I put myself in Tom's shoes and realized that I would have made exactly the same choice.