wear (oneself) to a frazzle
To make oneself exhausted and anxious through too much work, effort, or worry. I wore myself to a frazzle trying to accommodate all our relatives over Christmas. It was nice having them here, but I'm so glad they're gone! They're wearing themselves to a frazzle with how overprotective they are of their kids.
wear someone to a frazzle
Fig. to exhaust someone. Her work wears her to a frazzle. Taking care of all those kids must wear you to a frazzle.
wear yourself to a frazzle
If you wear yourself to a frazzle, you work so hard that you become exhausted and nervous. Why should I wear myself to a frazzle, trying to sort you out? Note: You can also say that someone is worn to a frazzle. His mother had been worn to a frazzle. Guy helped by looking after his sister.