queen bee
noun
1
the alpha male in a group of homosexuals. Punning on QUEAN. The Guild Dictionary of Homosexual Terms, 1965, offers this definition: 'usually, but not always, an auntie with money, an entourage, and numbers (sex-partners). Frequently he is elderly and, most always, an agreeable person.' US, 1965.
2
a heterosexual woman who seeks out the company of homosexual men US, 1957