Seduce a woman and then abandon her. This expression, with its rakish Edwardian sound, was recorded only in 1923 in J. V. Weaver’s Finders: “Love ’em and Leave ’em—that’s me from now on.” However, an earlier citation (1885) recorded in the OED, love you and leave you, allegedly was a common saying in Chester (England) when a visitor was departing.